Saturday, 21 April 2018

PRO'S & CON'S OF LABELS


Our society is good at giving and passing out labels. It creates divisions among people where divisions should really be redundant or obsolete.

Therefore I would like to create a Pro's and Con's list of some of labels I struggled with for years, all given to my by other people, and showing I took an ownership of another persons limited beliefs on what I could and couldn't accomplish. My list of labels were "DISABLED", "TERMINAL", and "INCURABLE"

The purpose of making a list of Pro’s and Con’s is a debate about for something or against a situation, in which you used to solve a problem/ dilemma, and helps a person to choose an action to change the current circumstance. A weighing or balancing problems with solutions.

I often refer to this as brainstorming, and the result brings peace and a sense of calm, because I have thought about an action or circumstance rather than react emotionally.

Take, for instance, the pro’s and con’s on labels for the following…

PRO’S for a Label


     -  Can provide understanding, co-operation, assistance and help           for a circumstance or situation.
      
         Understanding, help, cooperation creates the following image.



CON’S of a Label

-                            - Judgment, limitations, and hinders the person who                                  received the label.

             - Fear
        
             - The person closes down because they feel judged.

      The person who received the label feels.. isolated and alone.





This week’s focus is on limitations we impose on ourselves, once we have been labelled. I like to view a label as a starting point, an evaluation set at this particular point in time. It doesn’t mean you can’t move on and change the label given to you by someone else. If you accept and own the label someone else gives you, is not empowering. Often hindering the persons growth, improvement and progress to move forward from that point in time.

In other words, I refused to be restricted by a label and someone else’s beliefs.

Okay…. so the label of DISABLED was a marker for that specific point and time in my life. This gave me a compass point and a time - a fixation on my current bearings in my life, and the direction was not pointing in the right direction. I did not want to be disabled, and I chose not to sit on my laurels and accept that things couldn't be changed.




I often wonder when I see someone with a walking stick or someone sitting a wheelchair if they have been given a label by someone else. Which they adopted and took on that belief and haven’t been able to move forward or consider and search for options, so they could be rid the walking stick or the wheelchair?

Labels can be used as a crutch or excuse not to move forward because of the fear, and the inertia which can set in. They have adjusted to whatever label has been given to them. This belief or label from the outer world, creates a stagnant pool, and the chi or energy stops flowing, for the inner world.

Take a look at the following photos and see for yourself, what energy or thought process comes to your mind. Does the image evoke a Pro or Con image of being understood?

The label brings an understanding to the outer world, but quite often isolates and alienates the person receiving the label. The result... they become trapped in their inner world with a label they don't want to be associated with.

The person may feel that doors are..


They may feel trapped with this label for life unable to change and move forward.


If the person accepts the limitations given to them by someone else. Their world may become small.



They shut down their energy and spark for life....





............instead of being carefree.






If you can manage to change your perception and how you face the label, and the connotations it brings. It opens up the energy gateway, with your thinking and actions. It lets you choose whether you are happy with the label, or with a great deal of hard work you can become..


Carefree again..

Like the beautiful change in seasons. The label given to you just becomes a turntable and a wheel to
change how you want your life to be viewed.



Swivel on your your heel and change the direction on that wheel. If you can imagine and can create an image and dream in your mind’s eye. This is the starting point of what you want to aspire to achieve.

I choose not to own other people labels of me, this took a great deal of commitment, dedication and hard work.

People only see the results of what I have managed to achieve today. They didn’t see tears of determination on the bad days, and the driving focus and commitment I gave to my task day in and day out for years.

If you are stuck with a label someone has given you, what do you need to do to change that label? Do you reject it or own it? Make choices right for you! Don't make other peoples limitations be yours.

Lastly, a very special thank you for the wonderful support I received this week with beautiful hugs, and also to many who purchased my book. I am truly grateful.

For many others,.... I send my wishes and share my willpower.

Stay Strong

Karen

All photos were sourced from pexels.com and I am grateful.

Saturday, 14 April 2018

TIRED AND EXHAUSTED?

(re-edited)

If you have been fighting cancer for quite some time, you will feel as though it is never ending. The constant tests if you are in the medical system, and the constant uncertainty of your future. Not sure if you can make plans for your future? Not knowing from one day to the next whether you will have a good or bad day, can hamper your confidence in making plans. Especially if it means making appointments or times, to catch up with acquaintances or friends. You may want to show your positive side, being upbeat and being strong, and get frustrated or angry with yourself. If on a day you want to be your best, only to find on that day when you wake up. You may feel blue, tired or out of sorts. I am writing so you know I understand the frustrations and fears you face each day. 

There is nothing worse than feeling that no one else understands your emotions, or how you truly feel under the facade you may put on for the rest of the world. Let it be, don't beat yourself up. Be gentle and kind to yourself. I encourage you to give yourself permission and freedom to express yourself when you are feeling down. This teaches you to face truths within yourself instead of covering up. Once you open yourself to true emotions, it produces a kind of liberation; it brings emotions to the surface instead of burying them deep within. Some people create music to express emotions like sadness or grief, some people draw using colours to express emotions.

 A
t the time I created this quilt called Chaos in the Tropics. There was no sense or order to my world. I was being bumped from one emotional wall to the next, seeing no future. This produces fear.  Learning to express yourself when no words are adequate you may find calming, soothing and healing. You can express yourself without judgment or seeing yourself as others may perceive you. There is no right or wrong, good or bad. I let the emotions speak and I focus on creating.

Chaos in the Tropics




I hope by writing some of my experiences, it may encourage and comfort you if you are experiencing a difficult time.

Casting my mind back over the past 12 years. I found facing my emotions started by expressing my emotions, in colours because no words were adequate, then I created quilts with different textures. Each texture had an emotional meaning. When I had made enough quilts! (laughing..)

Then I turned to free form poetry to express emotions, and the emotional cyclone and storm settled where I could find words to express myself. You may do something similar, but not recognising or realising why you experienced the need to create. This is the intuitive healer coming to your rescue.

The vitamin which helped with my energy levels, and I still take to this day is plain ‘ol Vitamin B2 100mgs X 2 in the mornings. I always take them before lunch or noon each day or I found I didn’t sleep well that night.

I hope you may find worthy pie tips this week, sharing about energy levels and emotions.




Stay strong

Karen


Thursday, 12 April 2018

BOOK LAUNCH

The time has finally arrived to launch my book!

The offical launch date is the 15th May 2018

My book can be ordered via BOOKS PUBLISHED tab
as an early release bonus!

Launch details and signing day can be found on my Facebook page.





STAY WELL & STAY STRONG.

Karen

Saturday, 31 March 2018

COMMUNICATING


This week my focus is on communication. I have realised how much knowledge I have accumulated over the past 12 years, to restore my health from those dismal days in which I floated in.


It was from an acquaintance that I received a verbal slap in the face. Which had me waking up to how I had been sabotaging my life, and how unaware I had been with the decisions I had been making.

To put you into that scene… I sat at her kitchen table. I had recently been released from hospital after learning to walk again and each day was agony. With the intense cancer activity in my bones. I was a picture of living misery, and couldn’t get my head above the pain and misery in which my life was stuck in.

Cycle of pain and misery

She showed no friendliness, no compassion nor kindness and the message was delivered without a smile.
The message delivered was more in an accusation tone. She looked me in the eyes and stated that every decision I had made had brought me to this point in my life. My sickness and the pain I was experiencing and lived with was self inflicted. I burst into tears….. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. There is no way on this earth I wanted to feel the physical pain I was trying to cope with.

BUT..

A few days later after the emotions had calmed and cooled. I replayed those words over in my mind.
I came to the realisation, and I started to agree with her. It was the beginning of my particular meditations in which I would analyze words or situations which were causing me unrest in mind and spirit.

No one had forced me to take the prescription drug which was compounding the bone pain I was already experiencing from the cancer. I had agreed to take the drug because I had been given no other options or solutions. To then cope with this pain, I had been prescribed a steroid which masked the pain to some extent, and compounded the other issues with my sore and swollen feet, and the accumulation of fluid each day. Then I was prescribed diuretics to negate the side effects from the steroid. It was a never ending cycle of pills on a Merry-Go-Round.

At the end of the day…... the buck had to stop with me. I had agreed to take these drugs. I had never questioned that the medical person had no alternative options in their knowledge bank. I was taking so much medication I rattled!.. AND none were there to let me heal. All the medications were just trying to fix a symptom from a previous medication.

My priority was to find which drugs to ditch first. One by one I eliminated all. As I have often stated it is 10 years since I have taken any prescription medication for this so called incurable cancer from medical science.

This little story and the regression back to my past, will hopefully bring you around to see the point I am making today.

I am finding I live in two different worlds and sometimes find it difficult to find words to bridge the gap and communicate well. It is similar to talking in two or three different languages. If you have worked in IT, you would relate to acronyms and the lingo for the computer world. Like CPU, RAM, AI, etc., etc.

Communicating with people is more complicated because of how their beliefs and brains are hard-wired for what they will or won’t believe. Sometimes the gentle approach will not wake people up. They need that cold bucket of water to wash over their senses. It is similar to shock therapy.

I do not want to see people experience what I have been through. However, looking back I needed the bucket of cold water because, I was so lost in the misery of the senses, and hadn’t engaged my analytical thinking and logic of how to escape the misery, I had created for myself.


This experience taught me analytical meditation and has developed into a second nature for me of seeing a situation, and being able to observe without becoming too caught up, in the emotional senses which could have me drowning again.


This week reminded me of how much knowledge and growth I have accomplished. I have concentrated my willpower into writing a book and bringing much of my knowledge learnt to share with many people. This project is also proving to be a worthwhile learning exercise.

My gut reaction is to curl up in a little ball when frustrated or disappointed with an outcome. Now I recover so much quicker, and get my head out of the emotional storm from the limitations being presented by others and find alternatives. I had an unforeseen setback which slowed me down a day.

Regardless, I have been receiving orders from people, so if you could give me some indication if you interested in ordering, by filling out the form from the link below. In the subject header if you could tell me how many books. It would be appreciated.

This week I will be placing the order for the published books, and it will make it easier to gauge the interest and the quantities of books for the order.


I hope you have all had a wonderful week.


Stay Strong

Karen

Friday, 23 March 2018

FINAL CHECKING



Dearest Readers and Wonderful Supporters,


This journey for me is almost at a close in bringing my story and the how I survive the No Hope cancer diagnosis. A diagnosis, almost costing me my life.



I won't be doing my usual writing for my blog this week. I hope 

you understand my priorities are elsewhere for the next few days.




I have received the manuscript back from the publisher

 for one final edit and check

 and then it goes into printing!



I still wanted to wish you all courage, determination, willpower for 

this week.


Stay strong


Karen


Friday, 16 March 2018

GONE AWAY!


Dear Supporters and Readers of my blog,

Today is the day I sent my manuscript to the publisher. It is out of my hands and about to enter the cogs of society, and hopefully influence the world of people who only see their health problems as a responsibility of medical science. A place where they too form their mis-guided hope for restoring their health.

My path has proven to be so different. I only hope to inspire, and give many people the much needed belief in themselves in restoring their own health.

The Number One human weakness for our health problems is lack of discipline.
The Number Two is lack of knowledge.
The Number Three is belief in themselves.
The Number Four is hope.

Your health is your responsibility.

I can at least share with you this week the cover of my book.




Stay strong


Karen

Friday, 9 March 2018

HONING YOUR SKILLS



Over the past few weeks, I have written about several mental blockages and barriers we give ourselves, which sabotage and limit our successes in the world.

What others do we need to uncover for you to shine and not be afraid to shine?

Whether it is cancer or another chronic health issue, you may face OR just everyday life being tiresome.

I would like to share with you the viewpoint and perspective I adopted, honed and practiced each day, till it became second nature and an automatic habit.

Substitute the word CANCER for your own personal hurdles, and the word applicable to you. It may be back pain, MS, Parkinson's the list is endless. Whatever is your bane.

YES… BANE!

According to the Collins Dictionary BANE is
“A person or thing that causes misery or distress (esp in the phrase bane of one’s life)

If you feel yourself being dragged down by a person or situation in your life and you have lost your spark and enthusiasm, it is no different to battling a health issue. It’s just the health issue may be a marathon rather than a sprint when it comes to measuring time.

I also mentioned that takes about 80% of mental attitude not to let cancer get the better of you, and that is to change your perspective of life. By harnessing and honing your visualization skills like an athlete, prepares us and gives us the mental strength to overcome and conquer many weakening and damaging attitudes. Being very aware of your thoughts and emotions is a constant stock take until you develop the habit of honing the following skills. There again the success is measured by the commitment and dedication of the individual.

Some people do this at night before bed, e.g., writing in a journal your frustrations or the ‘bane’ of your day. Whatever has sapped your vitality for life on that day? Often it may be a thought of a task on your list to do tomorrow, and you don’t want to do that task, or a commitment to meet an individual, that you don’t look forward to.

It is the accumulation of the little things, which can hinder us the most.

Some of you have heard my PIG story, and I will retell it again for the benefit of anyone new. With big tasks I don’t want to do or am fearful of, I always bring to mind the occasion we had a small farm with electric fencing. The bush pigs if they wanted to go through the fence into another paddock would back up and squeal, just before hitting the electric fence. They mentally toughened up to get over the pain threshold.


We create many of our own barriers, and invisible mental pain.




Using our wonderful mind and honing our skills we can mentally toughen up. Think of yourself as an athlete rather than a person in misery or distress.






EXERCISE TIME!

HONING YOUR VISUALISATION SKILLS SOMETIMES NEEDS A GOOD WORKOUT. (this is the technique I use… you may find another way. Do what is right for you.)

STEP ONE.
Close your eyes focus on relaxing and become aware of your breath. On the IN breath count to EIGHT slowly and the OUT breath count to TWELVE slowly. Repeat this three times. (If you can’t… don’t sweat the small stuff… it may take practice. Do what is comfortable for you!)

STEP TWO
Now gradually work your way through the following pictures By looking and then closing your eyes and bringing the picture to your mind’s eye. Visualise taste, smell, texture. Turn the image slowly in your mind’s eye, do you notice any other markings or unusual qualities?




The most powerful outcome of this exercise is being able to imagine the taste and bring into the physical reality the taste of the lemon on your tongue.



How does the chilli taste? Can you bring your mouth to feel the sensation of eating a real chilli?

Repeat the exercise by bringing the picture of the lemon or chilli, but instead of focusing on the taste of the item. Focus on the smell.

Repeat the exercise for texture.

Now we have our mind warmed up with visualisation exercises.

Let’s turn our attention to the bane of your existence and create an environment of senses that are positive and conducive to your happiness.

With the back ache or pain….. it is an unwelcome sensation, you are feeling in your physical body. Transform the pain, so that you control the pain, rather than the pain controlling you. Change the sensation in your mind’s eye to a shape, colour, texture, smell, size. Hold that image in your mind; make it turn and spin like a top. Make the image as real as you can. Then make it disappear by imagining the waves of water eroding the image, or have it slowly blow away with the wind, watch it gradually disintegrate.

I use these types of exercises to overcome anything that is proving to be the bane of my existence. The more you practice, the more skillful you become at creating the happy life you dream about. It helps to bring what you want in your life to become a reality, or helps to find the resilience to endure your current circumstance.

Stay Strong

Karen



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